DH and I went this weekend to visit a family who just recently moved into the area. He is a new agent and this is their first assignment. Great family. They will do well here because the wife has a great attitude. This is a new place for them far different from where they've come from. She is getting out and exploring new shopping centers, finding all the parks and trails for her kids, and trying hard to get to know her neighbors.
PCSing and finding happiness and fun in the new place is 90% about your attitude. If you don't have that then your miserable. I noticed at our last spouses night that a lot of the wives had been told by their agent husbands not to go here or to stay away from there and to definitely not forget to set the alarm. They've scared them into not liking where they are. Don't get me wrong, I'm all about OpSec- knowing your surroundings, being aware and vigilent, but too much can also be detrimental to having an enjoyable assignment.
Finding that balance and having a positive attitude makes all the difference.